How to Maintain a Healthy Lesbian Relationship
Lesbian dating is not that easy. First of all, you have to deal with the social stigma that sadly still exists. Once you get past that, you need to find a pretty girl that plays for the same team. That can be a lot of work, but once you get there, it’s worth the trouble.
The beginning stages of any relationship are brilliant, aren’t they? Everything she does is cute, her stories are fun to listen to, and the fact that sex is frequent is enough on its own. You want to hear from her every two minutes, you’re already planning your wedding, and whether she’d get along with your favorite auntie Becky.
But, when you’re a few months into the relationship, those rose-tinted glasses come off. Suddenly, everything isn’t as magnificent as it seemed. What do you do then? Does “long term” automatically signify an end to a good relationship? Can lesbian couples continue together even after they’ve done a decent mileage?
The answer is, yes, of course! We’ll share with you some lesbian relationship tips that will help you power through all the hardships.
Manage Your Expectations
There’s a reason why this one is the first tip we wanna talk about. It’s essential to realize whether or not your expectations of a relationship are realistic. Sure, we all dream about that perfect someone who will make every waking moment filled with joy and laughter. Every second we spend together, we want it to be memorable and full of love. But even fairy tales have evil witches in them.
Your partner should make you happy, that’s a given. However, it’s ludicrous to expect them to fulfill every need of yours and devote their lives to making you happy. You wouldn’t know what happiness was if you felt it all the time. When you enter a relationship, your expectations should be reasonable if you want to feel satisfied.
Always Meet Halfway
Compromise is key to a healthy relationship. Either end of the scale is no good. If you’re too stubborn and always want things your way, you’ll be to blame when your relationship becomes terrible. Then again, if you’re a pushover who always indulges your partner without fail, that’s not good either. You’ll be unhappy with how things are going, and your partner will more than likely grow tired of always having it her way.
Compromise is crucial because it allows you to resolve conflicts with both parties being happy about it. Sure, you won’t have it 100% the way you wanted it, but making concessions is a great way to show someone you care about how they feel.
Do Something That Both of You Enjoy
You like watching horror movies, but she hates them because she can’t sleep well later. She likes knitting, but you hate it because you’re not a boring, lifeless 90-year-old. Dear Dr. Phil, is our relationship doomed?
Absolutely not! It’s perfectly normal that the two of you like different things, and that you like spending time in a way the other one hates. If it weren’t so, you’d be the same person. Not loving the same things is okay. That can be a problem only if you focus on it too much. Instead, you should try to do something that both of you do enjoy. If you don’t know what that thing is yet, you should discover it, and the discovery alone will be a great way to improve your relationship.
It’s not important what that activity is. It can go from traveling abroad to watching trashy reality shows, as long as you have something that you’ll both look forward to.
Understand Each Other
Some say that a happy relationship is the one in which partners fulfill each other’s needs, not their wants. As you spend time together more and more, you’ll get to know your partner better. You’ll see some sides of her that she isn’t even aware of. When an argument crops up, most of us tend to be too defensive and not give in.
However, if you want to have a happy, long-lasting relationship, you should get rid of that defensiveness. Instead, focus on understanding your partner and where she’s coming from. Understanding each other is key to an open conversation. When you feel you can’t speak freely about anything you want, you’ll end up feeling lonely even when you’re together.
This is one of the most critical pieces of lesbian relationship advice you’ll hear. As we’ve said, things that make us different are the things that make us unique. If we had no differences, it would all be boring.
Sure, you should always seek out things you both enjoy and spend time doing them. But, if your partner likes knitting so much, let her knit! Don’t force yourself and your thoughts on her, and don’t let her do the same to you. You should respect each other’s individuality and always leave some “me” time for yourself. When you’re alone, you can make yourself happy, and being happy individually is crucial for a happy relationship overall.